Internet dating opinion
Joyce Carol Oates wrote that love is two things: bodies and words.
Science has focused on just the bodies, but that’s only because the bodies are the easier part of the equation to study.
While Shakespeare and other artists show lovers they must win their suitors by proving their courage and character, scientists tell us we’re in a “market model” of mating.
Science has done much to deepen the beauty and wonder of everything from stars to thunderstorms, whales to honeybees, but something strange and ugly happens when scientists stick their curious noses into the world of human mating.
Science has reduced the human mating dance to something no more romantic than shopping for a dishwasher.
This “first-pass filter” is important for understanding the internet dating study as well.
While Shakespeare and other artists show us lovers who must win their suitors by proving their courage, character and intelligence, scientists tell us we’re in a “market model” of mating, in which our value is based on little beyond youth, looks and, for men, money.
A new study on internet dating insists we’re all looking for the best deal we can get, and that women max out in value at 18, men at 50.
In one, called the matching hypothesis, like is attracted to like.
I thought of the movie “Shrek,” in which the title character, who is big green ogre, is thrilled when the beautiful princess turns into a green ogress.